Wednesday, April 22, 2009

29 Dark Chocolates--bitter and sweet


Fatwa Saiyidina Umar r.a :
“Orang yang bijaksana,tidaklah dia mahu mencari sahabat melainkan orang-orang yang panjang fikirannya, kuat agamanya, luas ilmunya, tinggi akhalaknya, lanjut akalnya, dan di waktu mudanya bergaul dengan orang-orang yang soleh. Barangsiapa yang melalaikan keteguhan percintaan dari sahabatnya, maka tidaklah dia akan merasai buah persaudaraan orang itu terhadapnya. Barangsiapa yang memutuskan persaudaraan sebab takut dikhianati, maka hiduplah dia dengan tidak bersaudara. Tidaklah ada kesenangan hati yang menyamai kesenangan bersahabat, dan tidaklah ada kedukaan yang melebihi kedukaan apabila putusnya persahabatan itu.”

Terharu dan sayu bila baca blog kawan2. It's curious how our behaviour greatly affects our dear friends, isn't it? Who wouldn't miss those happy times? I even confide my mom about it. Mothers are always generous and forgiving in nature, that is why their opinion helps you to see things differently.

Recently, I read a book entitled 'The Rules of Life' by Richard Templar. The author said we ought to keep to ourselves of what we discover from his book, but I believe we should share good things with others. And one of the things he wrote was on how being a real friend is a tremendous responsibility. He listed down all the qualities required; "loyal, sincere, dependable, open, responsive, forgiving at times and prepared to offer help, support and sympathy" and lots more. He also said we may have to be truthful at times and be prepared to risk the friendship by being so.

Bukan kah dua orang yang bersahabat dan berpisah demi mendapat keredhaan Allah salah satu golongan yang mendapat naungan-Nya di akhirat kelak? So what if he/she refuses to listen now? You always have Him by your side. Seek His guidance and pray that our friends will see to reason. Amin.

Yet equally there are times where you need to hold your tongue and keep your opinion to yourself. We all need to understand that they are our friends, not our clones or slaves to do our bidding--they do things differently and have their own way of thinking.

And this is all what we need to do. But even if our friends fail to do any of this, we will not and should not abandon them. We remain being their friend, being forgiving and most importantly, BEING THERE. You are there in time of joy as well as in trouble or stress.

It's easy to be angry, make rude gestures and swear. It isn't so easy to be forgiving. However, forgiveness or tolerance should not be mistaken with meekness. Being forgiving doesn't mean we can be pushed around. We can stand our ground but at the same time try to forgive our friends for all the stupid mistakes they make. Someone once told me to just forget about them, who cares? Well--apparently I do. No matter how much I hate the things they said or how they act, they are my friends--good or bad. I couldn't ignore them even if I try. Plus, I'm tired of being angry all the time, aren't you? I realize that being angry at those you care about--family and friends is exhausting and consumes you emotionally, and I am exhausted.

Rasulullah SAW bersabda maksudnya:
"Perumpamaan orang beriman yang berkasih sayang, dan saling rahmat merahmati dan di dalam kemesraan sesama mereka adalah seperti satu tubuh, apabila satu anggota mengadu sakit, maka seluruh tubuh akan turut merasainya dan membantunya dengan berjaga malam dan demam." (Riwayat Muslim)

We all share and hold the same value i.e. Islam, and Islam transcends gender, age, race, state and family background. Kalau kita faham mesej yang dibawa oleh Rasul junjungan kita, kita akan sentiasa mempunyai hati yang berkobar-kobar untuk mencintai sahabat2. I simply refuse to believe that it's impossible to be like we used to just because we've known each other's bad side or because we've come to realize that we are different. I have faith in my friends and I pray that someday we will see pass our differences.

Ya Allah, kurniakanlah perasaan cinta kepada-Mu, dan cinta kepada orang yang mengasihi-Mu, dan apa sahaja yang membawa daku menghampiri cinta-Mu. Jadikanlah cinta-Mu itu lebih aku hargai daripada air sejuk bagi orang yang kehausan. Amin.


Thursday, April 16, 2009

Restless heart


Say: O My servants who have wronged against their souls, do not despair of Allah's mercy. For Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, He is Most Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Surah az-Zumar 39:53)

This subuh I heard a tazkirah coming from the mosque near my house. "Tok imam pasang kaset kot," I thought since the voice sounds so familiar.

I listened.

It was about a hadith that tells a story about a man. Allah gave this man a glimpse of jannah and this man begged really hard for it. Allah refused him but he never stop begging for it. In the end, his wish was granted.

A sudden chill was running down my spine. *sigh* how far and distant I felt from His grace.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "Whoever fasts Ramadhan out of faith and the hope of reward, his previous sins will be forgiven."

May all our sins are forgiven. Wallahua'lam.

p/s: Food for the soul. (

Monday, April 13, 2009

The Echo of Life


Recently, I read an interesting short story on the net by an anonymous. Though the title has no impact whatsoeva, the story did. It was about a father, his son and a lesson they learned through their journey on a mountain. So, the story goes like this...

Mountain Story

"A father and his son were walking on the mountains.
Suddenly, the son falls, hurts himself and screams: "AAAhhhhhhhh!!!"
To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the mountain: "AAAhhhhhhhh!!!"
Curious, he yells: "Who are you?"
He receives the answer: "Who are you?"
And then he screams to the mountain: "I admire you!"
The voice answers: "I admire you!"
Angered at the response, he screams: "Coward!"
He receives the answer: "Coward!"
He looks to his father and asks: "What's going on?"
The father smiles and says: "My son, pay attention."
Again the man screams: "You are a champion!"
The voice answers: "You are a champion!"
The boy is surprised, but does not understand.

Then the father explains: "People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE.
It gives you back everything you say or do.
Our life is simply a reflection of our actions.
If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart.
If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence.
This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life;
Life will give you back everything you have given to it."

Often people don't realize or choose to be ignorant of the consequences of their actions. Do we ask, is this what we really want for ourselves? for our future children? More often, we give excuses like, "Alaa..time ni lah nak enjoy. Nanti aku berubah lah" or "Anak aku nanti aku ajar la bende yang betul"-- that is just being double standard. And more often we forget that we are only human; kita hanya merancang dan Dia adalah penentunya. Yakin kah kita yang kita tak akan terus leka dengan dunia sehingga lupa akan hak-Nya, hak ibu bapa kita, hak kawan2, hak saudara seIslam?

The sad thing is that, we have the knowledge. We already knew that Allah gave us choices in life and he teach us to choose the good ones. We always knew that adultery, backbiting and slander are sins. We knew all about sifat mahmudah & mazmumah. We knew ALL that---and yet we choose to ignore it or even better, we come out with reasons to justify our actions. And even after all the horrible things we have done, He gave us many chances, opportunities to repent, to learn from our mistakes and come back to Him, but did we take His offer?

The world is reaching its end. The question here is, are we prepared for it?


Friday, April 10, 2009

Samsung Omnia


This isn't actually what I had in mind for my first post in April v(^o^)v
---Anyone here interested in buying a new phone? or do you know anyone who is?
  1. its a PDA, Samsung Omnia
  2. bought a week ago
  3. black colour--they only sell the silver ones in Msia
  4. with leather casing
  5. price--around RM 1800